Loneliness

Loneliness isn't your enemy. It's an ancient signal, pushing you toward connection because that's how we survive. Your ancestors who felt this ache sought each other out, built communities, continued the species. You're wired for belonging.

But here's where it gets tricky: when depression creeps in, your brain starts lying to you. It whispers that you have no one, that your relationships don't count, that you're alone even when you're not. The cruel irony? These lies make you withdraw from the very people who could help, deepening the ache you're trying to escape.

Two myths keep us stuck. First: there's one perfect soulmate out there, and if they're gone, you're done. Second: you need a relationship to be happy. Both are false.

Real happiness comes from multiple streams — friends, projects, solitude, movement, purpose. Balance time with people and time alone. Keep your body moving, your sleep consistent, your mind engaged with what matters to you. Put down the screen. Look up.

Most importantly: accept that you're flawed, they're flawed, and that's okay. No relationship will be perfect. Some parts will disappoint you. That doesn't make them worthless. Perfection isn't the goal. Connection is.

You're allowed to be lonely and still okay. You're allowed to need people and also need yourself. Start small. Start today.

What you notice in this piece says something about where you are right now. And that's okay too.